Finally got that RINNNGGG, so what happens now?

Getting engaged is so exciting - but once that excitement wears off the panic might set in. Your mind starts racing, and you might feel overwhelmed by the "what's next."

So let's break it down. After sharing the big news - here are your next steps!


  1. BUDGET. The MOST important step is setting a budget. To avoid any fights or stress with your partner, a good idea is to agree to, and set a budget.
  2. Date/venue. This goes hand in hand, you may be attached to a very specific date - therefore limiting your venue options and vice-versa. Some venues book out 1-3 years in advance and may not have your perfect date available. Pick what's most important to you and run with it.
  3. Vendors! Once your date & venue are set - now it's time for your vendors!! Arguably the most important to get locked in is your photographer, DJ, caterer, florist, wedding planner, Most, if not all will require deposits/retainers so be prepared for this in your budget when going to book.
  4. Wedding party!! Decide with your partner if you want a bridal party, if so how large and who. You don't have to do some big expense elaborate gesture, but a simple gift or card to ask them to stand by your side is a wonderful way to include the people you love. Discuss with your Maid of Honor/Best Man their duties (i.e. if you expect a bachelor(ette) party, wedding shower etc and see if they'd want to help plan or throw those for you!)
  5. Wedding Website! This step may not be for everyone, but building a wedding website may be for you! It's a great place to keep all your info in once place such as your registry, info for guests, RSVP functions, etc. I recommend The Knot, or Zola.
  6. Engagement photos! Most wedding photographers include these with your package (I do!) So you can get to know your photographer a little better, make sure their style is exactly what you saw in their portfolio, go over details and specifics.
  7. Save the Dates! A general rule of thumb for Save The Dates is 9-12 months in advance.
  8. Dress shopping: Unless you're buying off the rack, your dress should be ordered 9 months before the big day to give time for it to come in, and get proper alterations done. While you're dress shopping, its a great time to also ask the store if they do tux rentals if you want to go that route. Same rule for bridesmaid dresses if you're buying in a bridal store. Otherwise, I love these online stores for bridesmaid dresses: Birdy Grey, Baltic Born, Lulus, Azazie
  9. Relax, and enjoy. Being engaged only lasts for so long, and its so easy to get caught up in the wedding planning and stress. Do your best to enjoy this time before marriage! It'll all fall into place.

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